Have you dropped your OARs?

Have you dropped your OARs?

It’s Not Whether You Get Knocked Down, It’s Whether You Get Up.” – Vince Lombardi
How often do you find yourself blaming things (or people) around you when it does not go to plan?
I wonder how much it matters, that your plan does not go ahead as you had initially thought.
When we blame the external things, it is not Ownership, Accountability nor Responsibility we are showing to our children, to our family, to our friends.
For what purpose is this done? The time that is spent on accusations, being fearful, living in despair, and worrying about what MIGHT be.
There is always a solution to the problem, there is always room for growth from the fear that is felt, and there is always room to evaluate what may work better next time.
Say goodbye to Blame, Excuses and Denial – there is no room for these if you choose to get back up and take the world head on.
YOU are worth giving it another go – YOU deserve another opportunity – YOU can give yourself permission to learn and grow.
Take the O.A.R.s and steer your way to success – You have got this !
P.S. If your life is out of control, you feel lost and alone, and you want direction to LIVE MORE of your life, drop me a line here.
Acknowledge Your Energy Within

Acknowledge Your Energy Within

Still standing – no matter what life challenges you with, you weather it in true form like Stonehenge, standing tall and strong. You have inner strength to call upon when needed, strength which will enable you to take on challenges through life. It is time to acknowledge all that is YOU.
You are wanting to feel strong and to have the determination in all that you do, to refuse nonsense from others. You are wanting confidence, greater self-esteem and the skills to weather whatever storm presents itself.
It is time to realise the energy you have within – all that you have now which can bring to life all you desire.
As one uses the pedal on that finely tuned piano, to bring depth to each note, to create new sounds which give meaning to the story being told. You desire that same Energy in your Soul.
So what is this ‘ENERGY’ that I speak of?
In line with a Personality Type which you represent, let’s consider the energy that you display, knowing that you can call on any of these energies – knowing that some are more powerful than the others.
I invite you to a fun Quiz to explore and ACKNOWLEDGE your Energies through the 4 Personality Types – D. I. S. and C.
Discover how YOU can be the finely tuned piano and bring depth to every note, every new experience, every new challenge … Click on the link at the top of the screen (refresh the page if you cannot see it) to take the Quiz !
Sometimes the Road is Hard to Travel

Sometimes the Road is Hard to Travel

You may feel like you are falling, without a safety net. You may know you need saving, yet who will save you?
When times get hard and we feel our heart racing, our shoulders are tense with the burden we carry, our mornings turn into nights, all that we see is that which we do not have, that which is denied to us.
Our focus is on what is lacking, what is not present in our lives. We exclude that which is good, that IS around us, that which is WITHIN us. The strength that lies within us is not so clear.
Feel this in your body, deeper, so that you can pinpoint where this feeling is. Notice how your body is.
You are worthy of saving – reach out and take that first step – YOU are loved and YOU can be the one who stops this cycle – YOU are worth saving.
Take that step to see the Sunrise, and its rays will shine brightly on you.
Achieving warmer relationships and connection on a level which is higher than you ever imagined.

Achieving warmer relationships and connection on a level which is higher than you ever imagined.

In order to maintain a warm relationship with those around us it is important for us to also maintain our true values, remaining clear on our boundaries and have clarity on what our needs are.

Anthony (Tony) Robbins has spoken of the 6 Human Needs which are defined as both Personal and Spiritual Needs much like the Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.

In the relationships we have, what do we like to be certain of and how much variety do we like to have?

What is significant to us may not be significant to others, as much as the need for a safe and secure environment compared to have variety and challenges.

Trust in self comes before trust in others.  What does it mean to trust?  Is it only about respect for another?

In order to build these warm relationships, it is required that we feel our fears and release them.  Know that you do belong, you are good enough and you are loved.

Achieve Self-Love, Confidence and Clarity on Your Direction

Achieve Self-Love, Confidence and Clarity on Your Direction

I wonder if you are so used to being invisible, feeling that you don’t matter, that when you do speak up you are apologetic to taking up someone’s time?

As much as we are allowed to feel what we are needing to feel, let’s not get caught up in creating a reality for someone else.  How you see your world is your choice; perceiving someone else’s world is also your choice – it may be an incorrect assumption though, remember that.

Imagine the realization that you may be a slave or victim of your past beliefs.  We can change our beliefs at any time – whether they are rules we have for ourselves and others, or what we value, or how we see the world in a Global context.  Experience your emotions, acknowledge them, then let them go.  Release those emotions so that you can focus on what comes next.  Be clear on where you are headed. Seek direction if you cannot – that is why we are here, for YOU.

Discover the Effect Of Your Own Self-Love

Discover the Effect Of Your Own Self-Love

We often care so deeply for our children that we do not recognize the need for loving ourselves.  Often we wrap ourselves up in hurt and pain, loneliness and judgement – now that cannot be good for our soul?

You have a choice.  How would you like to live your life?

We shy away from vulnerability because we do not understand its true PURPOSE.  To be vulnerable is to have COURAGE.  When you have the courage to acknowledge your vulnerabilities then you have access to your emotions and you stand tall owning them.  Here you will find Self-Love – when you take ownership for your emotions, your hurt, your pain – and this is where you take action to reap the rewards of your Self-Love.

There is no one-way of thinking – when we remove ourselves from being hidden from others, where we make the decision to remove the mask, and let others know our true and authentic self, then we can relish in the reality of being safe, loving ourselves for all there is, being OK with all that happens and knowing that we CAN grow, we CAN achieve, and we CAN love ourselves first.

Create Your Support Network For When Times Get Tough

Create Your Support Network For When Times Get Tough

As a Single Parent we yearn for having a support network when things do not go according to plan – and this happens from time to time.

We like to know that we are safe, not judged for choices we’ve made, and to do this safely it requires Boundaries; for yourself as the Parent and for others who are your “support team”.  Both sets of Boundaries are to be honoured by the other person.

So what is it that our Support Network does for us?

If you think that it is to take care of our self-esteem, you are mistaken – that is YOUR job.  We can help you with that if you don’t know how – that is perfectly OK.

A support network is not about bending to another person’s belief system of what is acceptable, or having them bend to yours.

Building a Support Network is about having a Community (or a Tribe as we call it).  It begins with you building your ‘inner world’ that is celebrated by your Tribe.  Achieve an understanding of what you care about and what you hold close to your heart.  Then your Tribe can be there for you – Build It And They Will Come (Quote from the movie “Field of Dreams”).